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Sunday, August 14, 2005

My 'Dear Dad'

My 'dear dad'
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4 Comments:

Blogger ♥ joleen ♥ said...

It's perfect, Aimee. You said it exactly.

I love you.

11:22 PM  
Blogger aunt kim said...

aimee, again i am so sorry for the pain you girls have endured. fathers should represent love, compassion and trust. none of which he has shown you. like i said to joleen, i feel that you should send the letter. in my eyes it is always better to say what you mean rather than hide it behind tears. i am here for you always.
on a happier note, i love the background picture of you and jo. :) you two are 'my' girls' forever!

9:39 AM  
Blogger UncleAaron said...

Aimee and Joleen,

First thing I would like to say is that I love you both with all my heart. You two are the daughters that I'll never have and I thank you for making me feel that way. My mom and dad split up when I was 10 so I kinda have a similar case such as yours. I too had a weekend,holiday, graduation wedding dad. There was even a time for a period of years when nobody even knew where he was.
Needless to say, it's very painful.
I feel that I miised out on alot of life because I didn't have a father figure in my life to guide me as I was growing up. I protected myself by keeping things inside and not communicating, as one should do. Communicating my feelings is becoming easier so I would just like to let you both know my feelings on this matter. I haven't seen you father since Aimee's wedding and it completely broke my heart when it came time for his feelings about the event and it seemed that he have any thing to say. Maybe it he was nervous and I hope he atleast said something to you in private. I think that it is harder on girls than boys in a situation where the father is out of the home life. I know it was harder on Devan than it was on me. She ended up being bulimic for a time blaming herself for him leaving, thinking she had done something wrong making him leave. I hope you both don't feel that it is even one iota your fault that he isn't in your life nor should you feel guilty for wanting to move on with or without him. I talk to my dad about every 2 or 3 months... and yes it's normally me that makes the call. I have just accepted the fact that he is who he is and he will never change but I do love him for who he is. As far as your letters are concerned I don't think that sending them is gonna change anything unless there is something in them that you haven't said to him before. The process of writing them to him is therapeutic in itself. I'm so proud of you girls for the strong women you have grown to become after all of the things in your lives, not only this issue, you have gone through. Your selflessness are caring for others is inspirational to myself as well as others. Thank you again for letting me be a part of you lives.

Love always,

Uncle Aaron

1:39 AM  
Blogger Joleen's Mom said...

When I began to respond to this post, it became so personal and so emothional that I chose to respond to you girls privately, but after reading Uncle Aaron's post, I have to tell you that I so agree with him regarding the selflessness and beauty you have within. They are some of my favorite traits of you. It feels good to know that you are loved so much, doesn't it? Consider yourself hugged!!!

8:42 AM  

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