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Thursday, May 25, 2006

Moving Away

I suppose that now is as good a time as any to start blogging again. I guess you could say that I went through my own funk, which is likely the result of an over abundance of stress. I’ve been working a lot lately and trying to trudge through the statistics course I am taking. It turned out to be a lot harder (and more time consuming) than I anticipated, but I can see light at the end of the dreary tunnel. I am also struggling with very mixed emotions lately and have not quite decided how I feel about my family moving.

This past weekend my parents (and little sisters) moved to the high desert and in a manner of weeks my older sister and her husband are moving to Palm Springs (a short stop on the way to Oregon). I am trying to be optimistic and excited for them but it’s hard because I already feel alone. I know that we will not see each other as often…the convenience of ‘dropping by’ is gone. I’m grieving the physical distance that is between us and I’m grieving the experiences that won’t be mutually shared. At the same time, I am very excited about the next phase in all our lives and I know these moves will not change the relationships we have worked so hard to build.

5 Comments:

Blogger la vie en rose said...

oh girlfriend. i can relate. when my parents moved away (it's been almost 8 years ago) it was so hard. i also happened to be going through a divorce at the time making it even harder. i was so used to my mom being there for everything. i was so used to stopping by and robbing their fridge. it did eventualy end up being a good thing but at first i was so lonely and it just sucked.

5:38 PM  
Blogger aunt kim said...

Aimee, Aimee, Aimee, I too know firsthand how you must feel right now. When Uncle Aaron and I bought our house (11 1/2 years ago) I had my mom and dad, grandparents, Aunt Teresa and my brother Aaron all within minutes of me. One by one they all moved away leaving me (as I have often felt) all alone with no one close but my husband's family. I loved being able to just pop in on them whenever and know that they could do the same with me. I was able to handle Aunt Teresa's move because I knew it was for the best and I was really happy for her. When my parents moved it was very traumatic for me. That is when I felt abandoned. Now I knew in my head all of the reasons for them doing it but try to explain it to the heart! I thought I was doing okay with it until my brother decided to move with the girls. Again another move made out of necessity. That move is what affected me most because now it meant that all of my family was at a distance. I realized though (it took awhile) that my emotions were pretty selfish. I so want to be closer (in proximity) to each one of them but I know right now it isn't feasable. Our parallel in-law situations kind of ground us right now.

Sorry for the long comment but I felt compelled to tell you that you are not alone. Your family will be there for you always and forever regardless of the miles between you. We are a very lucky family and distance has never prevented any one of us from getting into one another's business, getting on each others nerves, even raiding refrigerators and closets. Fortunately for you, right now your busy schedule should help you thru this 'funk'. It will get easier but give it some time.

I love you always,
Aunt Kim

9:47 PM  
Blogger *aimee* said...

Thank you for the kind and sincere words...it's so nice to have my feelings understood and validated. I am encouraged and have hope for the future, even if my present hurts a little. :o)

12:05 AM  
Blogger Joleen's Mom said...

Dear Aimee, I can only imagine what you must be going through. I'm sorry for your pain. I promise you that I will always work on keeping our relationship as close and as special as it is right now. I too, will miss the "popping in". I appreciate your support for the reasons we made this move. Sometimes life dictates you into a different direction than you had planned. I beleive that God has great plans for you and might use this "you time" to reveal them to you. 40 miles will never keep me from you, and I'm always a telephone call away. We are just going to have to get creative on getting together! I look forward to the challenge. Please try not to feel like you are abandoned. I did not leave you, just moved to a new location. There is a difference. I love you, my daughter and friend. Take care and keep smiling! :) Here's a hug from me... (squeeze) Aunt Kim is right about one thing... "We are a very lucky family and distance has never prevented any one of us from getting into one another's business, getting on each others nerves, even raiding refrigerators and closets." My fridge is always open for you!

7:47 AM  
Blogger ♥ joleen ♥ said...

Hi Aimee,

First off, I MISS YOU TOO! Mother's Day seems like a lifetime ago. How do our days get so filled to the brim? I know you've been feeling funky- me too. I wish we lived closer and that I didn't have to keep moving (believe me!). But who knows, maybe in a bit, we'll be in the position for me to stop nannying soonish and all four of us can get houses on the beach. Hee.. that would be awesome. Anyway, hang in. I think it's an easier drive to you from PS anywho. I love you.

2:08 PM  

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